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This blog is for anyone interested in adoption issues, including adopted children, birth parents, adoptive parents, relatives, and friends on both sides.

At the outset, please understand that this Blog is not a professional site but rather a gathering place for people to read, learn, peruse, even air some issues they have regarding adoption. Should you require professional literature or professional services, or if you want to read personal memoirs on adoption, be assured that an abundance of information is at your disposal. Just Google the word [adoption] or take a look on Amazon.com and you'll see what I mean. Should you be looking for agencies, legalities, support, etc., or if you are considering giving a child up for adoption, you may begin your search by viewing the comprehensive Child Welfare Information Gateway website for access to professional services you need. Go to http://www.childwelfare.gov/

The Art of Fiction

There's no denying that we feel natural when our biological heritage is known. Like the air we breathe, we don't even think about it. But heritage matters to people who grow up never seeing the faces of their biological relatives. And so, adoption maters to them, and it also matters to those of us who live inside the adoption triad - birth mother, child given up and adoptive parents.

I am an adoptive mother who cannot even imagine life without my beloved children who are biologically related to someone else. When I began the research for my novel, DEBUT, I was only mildly surprised to learn that perhaps a third of United States population is in some way related to a child given up for adoption. But, you can easily calculate the math to see why this figure looms large, for it includes all biological relations from the birth family; the adoptive family of parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. And this figure doesn't even include friends.

The art of fiction is a perfect medium for painting a canvass wide enough to encompass the spectrum of the adoption triad. DEBUT promises to cover a full range of underlying issues and concerns about the importance of heritage. My characters reveal secrets that are sometimes too painful or too embarrassing to share.

We know that accepting the truth of the reality of life can lead to healing yet that road can be difficult and lonely when traveled alone. DEBUT speaks for the birth mother who lives with regret and guilt; the adopted child who yearns for wholeness while harboring resentment and confusing thoughts; the adoptive parents who fear their beloved child may one day open the door to the past.

Secrets

The characters in DEBUT live with secrets other people do not have. The birth mother builds her secret life when she regrets her irrevocable decision and feels grief and guilt. The adoptive parents start building a secret life when they wonder in fear if the birth mother might someday show up at their door. The adopted child builds a secret life in adolescence, when her inherited vocal gift causes her to wonder about her heritage.

If this blog appeals to you, please share your thoughts.

November is NATIONAL ADOPTION MONTH! Read DEBUT to find out what's missing in the life of Jennifer Weiss, the talented new opera singer who appers to have everything.

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